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Monday, September 13, 2010

DEALING WITH IMMATURE PEOPLE

I just got this topic in mind for a simple reason that I want others or even my ownself learn how to deal with “immaturity”. Thanks google, because atleast I am getting some insights about this BAD practice.

There is no one of us who admires someone we deem as being immature, especially if they continue to persist in their actions. Face it. It’s UGLY. When we begin to take our focus into ourselves and our own unfilled desires, wants, and wishes, we can become very ugly FAST.

What do we mean when we say that someone is acting “immature”? Encarta defines it as: “childish: lacking the wisdom or emotional development.” Then what is it that makes one childish? What is it about children when they are acting up that turns the cute little munchkins into holy terrors? I think you will find that the answer lies in the root of SELFISHNESS AND INSECURITY.

When we are acting immature, do we like to listen to reasons? Often immaturity strikes most in the area of relationships: with those we love the most. We feel slighted, hurt, wounded by the other. We feel like we aren’t getting our needs met, that the other person doesn’t understand us. For that matter, there may be some degree of truth to these sentiments. But is attempting to punish the other person with a display of our extreme displeasure going to accomplish any kind of reform on their part? Does pouting, whining, nagging, throwing tantrums: do these things engender growth?

Ideally, we grow from infants—who are forgivably immature and completely self-centered—into adults who will have to learn to be caring somewhere along the way. Yet far too often these words ring true: “Most adults never grow up.” When we are truly mature, we feel a sort of saddened compassion for the person who acts like this: our eyes see that they have much to learn and much to grow and we silently pray for them.

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