DEALING WITH IMMATURE PEOPLE

I just got this topic in mind for a simple reason that I want others or even my ownself learn how to deal with “immaturity”. Thanks google, because atleast I am getting some insights about this BAD practice.

There is no one of us who admires someone we deem as being immature, especially if they continue to persist in their actions. Face it. It’s UGLY. When we begin to take our focus into ourselves and our own unfilled desires, wants, and wishes, we can become very ugly FAST.

What do we mean when we say that someone is acting “immature”? Encarta defines it as: “childish: lacking the wisdom or emotional development.” Then what is it that makes one childish? What is it about children when they are acting up that turns the cute little munchkins into holy terrors? I think you will find that the answer lies in the root of SELFISHNESS AND INSECURITY.

When we are acting immature, do we like to listen to reasons? Often immaturity strikes most in the area of relationships: with those we love the most. We feel slighted, hurt, wounded by the other. We feel like we aren’t getting our needs met, that the other person doesn’t understand us. For that matter, there may be some degree of truth to these sentiments. But is attempting to punish the other person with a display of our extreme displeasure going to accomplish any kind of reform on their part? Does pouting, whining, nagging, throwing tantrums: do these things engender growth?

Ideally, we grow from infants—who are forgivably immature and completely self-centered—into adults who will have to learn to be caring somewhere along the way. Yet far too often these words ring true: “Most adults never grow up.” When we are truly mature, we feel a sort of saddened compassion for the person who acts like this: our eyes see that they have much to learn and much to grow and we silently pray for them.

LOVE TEAM FOREVER

Time flies so fast. Parang the other day lang I was wishing that “sana BER month na!” I’m so sure that everyone here in Dubai are wishing the same thing coz it’s definitely HOT in here. Imagine even at 7pm, the ambiance remains at more than 30°C. So as much as possible, it’s really better to stay at home because we can set the AC even as low as 9°C.

Just last Thursday, I was off with husband and friends at the mall and we saw there were already jackets and sweaters at the shop racks. Wow winter time is near! I immediately roam around and lucky me coz I got this nice black, pair jacket for me and Poy from Quicksilver. It’s so cute coz we’re terno =)

Ever since bf/gf days Poy and I are always in terno outfit. Even during our Sumiden days, at almost all important events we are wearing the same shirt or wearing the same color. I love him most because of that. Other guys kasi finds it corny wearing terno, but for us we find it cute and sweet. It’s also a way of our bonding moment. Poy knows that wearing the same outfit makes me happy that’s why he’s always game about it, even “pambahay” clothes eh terno pa din.

I have a kwento pala about this. During our first Christmas as husband and wife, our family agreed to wear pajamas for the noche buena. As usual, me and Poy looked for terno pajamas. We saw one but with medium size only. Since I’m 5 months pregnant that time, it’s ok if the size is big for me. But when Poy tried it, it’s bitin to him and his “junior” is a bit showing through coz the pajama color is light brown. The conversation went like this:

Poy: “Ay naku bi ayoko nito! Bakat oh, ang sagwa!”

Nani: “Ok ok, hanap pa tayo. Pero pag wala na talaga yan na ok?”

After 35 years, wala na sya makita na terno…

Poy: “Bi iba na lang suot natin, wala na kasya sa atin na terno eh.”

Nani: “Eh di yun na lang brown bi. Sakto sa kin yun tapos parehong pareho pa tayo, cute!”

Poy: “Eh bi bitin nman tapos bakat pa.”

Nani: “Ok lang yan bi, suot ka na lang mahabang shirt e di taklob na. Tara yun na bilhin natin.”

Poy: “Ahh bi ayoko!”

Nani: “Ah ayaw mo talaga? Bibilhin ba natin yung pajama na yun o mag papasko ka mag isa mo???”

Poy: “Sabi ko nga bi, bayaran ko na eh. Ganda nga nung brown na pajamas na yun ano? Bagay na bagay sa tin. Tara na bi sa cashier.”

Etong asawa ko talaga gusto pa tinatakot sya eh =)

I just love the fact that my husband is so cool about wearing terno. He surely doesn’t care if he will wear the same shirt as mine even if color pink or even sesame street design pa yan. I remember once he told me that with his past GF, he will never, at all cost wear the same shirt as hers. But with me, he finds it “nakaka kilig” daw =) It’s like telling the world that I’m his and he’s mine =)

But don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that those guys who don’t like wearing terno with their gf/wife are not nice or loving partners ha? That’s not what I meant =)

FIRST TIME HURTS!

Let’s face the truth, first time really hurts right? May it be first heart ache, first labor pain, first tooth extraction and whatever it is that’s in your “green” mind =)

Well for my case, I can really say, first time hair leg tweezing surely hurts!

Last Friday, before going to the beach with 101 friends, we (girls only of course) decided to get rid of our hair legs. I’ve done it before already using wax strip from Veet so no problem with me. Not until I found out that we will be using an epilator and not a wax strip or cream.

Epilator is an electrical device used to remove hair by grasping multiple hairs simultaneously and pulling them from the roots. Ouch devah? As you roll the head, it rotates and the plates move together creating a tweezing effect. Can you imagine how painful it is? 1 buhok nga lang na bubunutin using tweezor eh super sakit na, yun pang sabay sabay at unti-unti? It really pays big to be beautiful noh?

painful!

First time really hurts but according to Len (she owns this Braun epilator which costs around Php2,000), second time around means less pain. I hope so!

All I can say is that, NO PAIN NO GAIN! I so love my hairless legs now! =)

WE’RE IN “A MATCH MADE IN HEAVEN”

LOVE! LOVE! LOVE!

Our love story featured in “A Match Made in Heaven”. Check check! SAKTO! Poy and Nani

Thanks Mei for posting our story exactly on our 27th wedding monthsary. I’m sure husband will be very happy reading our story on your page =)
 
 

ONE DAY, I’LL HAVE ONE!

According to the bible, if you have something in mind, continue to declare it because words spoken from the mouth are powerful. So starting today, I’m boldly declaring that ONE DAY, I’LL HAVE THAT LV BAG!

Jaaraaaaaan!!!

It’s the Louis Vuitton’s Monogram Hexagone Neo Sporty!

Beautiful no? The shape is so perfect just for anywhere travel or even as a sports bag. The design and the patchworks are so unique. And it’s an exclusive piece, because it’s limited to 100 pieces only and each bag is numbered. Winner!!

So now, let’s go to the price. (drumroll please)

USD 6,850! AED 25,000! Php 307,000!

Nani speechless. GOODLUCK TO MY DREAMS! Hahaha!

Poy,
Bibi don’t lose hope. I have other options pa. Promise these are cheaper! ;)

ANOTHER POY STORY

taken during Jonah's wedding

I just can’t help not to blog about this. Last night, Poy and I were about to sleep at 11pm. Although I’m not yet sleepy, pinipilit ko talaga because tomorrow is another day at work. We need to wake up at 6am sharp. But I really can’t sleep! Maybe because that afternoon, we had an almost 2 hours nap so I personally feel I had enough sleep already. I can see my bibi’s heavy-eyed na so I let him sleep after our usual chatting. I was literally counting sheep because I wanted to sleep na talaga but I really can’t! I was turning upside down in bed trying to get some snooze.

Then after a while, I felt a warm kiss and a light tap in my left leg which of course came from my bibi.

Poy: “Bi di ka makatulog? Tapikin kita.”

Nani: “Antok ka na bi eh, Wag na, ok lang.”

Poy: “Pikit ka na po, tatapikin kita.”

After continuous tapping, I then felt his other hand brushing my hair over and over and over again until I fell asleep.

This morning, I was awakened by a kiss from hubby. I got up and saw my bath towel, office dress including my undies, already in the shower room. After shower, saw our cleaned up bed, my milk and cereals in the dining table as well as my packed sandwiches and fruits in my meal bag.

I then again realize how lucky I am to have a husband like Poy. I’m really a spoiled wife. I am so blessed to have the sweetest, caring and loving husband on earth. I will be forever thankful for this wonderful blessing from the Lord.

I love you so much bi and thank you for loving me back more!

MIMAY SOON IN DUBAI Part 1: PHILIPPINE EMBASSY AND DUBAI IMMIGRATION

It’s exactly 2 months, 2 weeks and 2 days before we can finally kiss, hug and be with our dearest baby.

Husband and I were on leave yesterday from work because we need to go to Philippine Embassy for Mimay’s Travel Clearance/Permit requirements.

The almost 50 deg. temp and the long queue did not stop me from feeling so happy and excited because processing all these documents simply means we will be with Mimay SOON! =)

From our place, it’s only around 15 minutes cab ride going to Philippine Embassy. Outside the cab, super init na to the highest level! Husband and I only have our sun glasses on, hindi uso ang payong. We arrived there at around 11 am. There’s a memo in the gate saying that office will be on holidays starting Sept.8 – 13. Buti na lang today is September 7 or else sayang ang leave and effort! Expectedly, there are many kabayans processing different documents such as visas, marriage docs, and passport renewals. Since it’s Ramadan timings, office will be closed at 2pm and cashiers at 1:30 pm with a 12nn-1pm lunch break and its 11:10 am na! OMG!

We only have less than an hour, and with a long queue it seems impossible we can finish before 12nn! But with prayers and God’s grace, we were able to finish everything just in time. In fairness, embassy officers are accommodating and nice naman especially the photocopier which I thought at first is a Chinese national, kabayan din pala. Guess how much is the photo copy per page? It’s AED 2 or 25 pesos per page! Kaloka db? I remember during my college days in Letran, Photocopy is just 50 cents per page. I suddenly thought “Am I that old?? Ganun na itinaas ng photocopy fee ngayon?” Well anyway, notarization charge is AED 100 per document. So for us, we paid AED 200 for the affidavit of support and SPA. We need these documents since Mimay will be travelling not with us but with her Naynay (my mommy). Since there will be long holidays, our documents will be released on the 15th pa. We paid another AED 30 so that we need not to come back again to pick-up the docs and instead it will be delivered to us through EMPOST courier on the 17th.

After Philippine Embassy, we went straight to Dubai Immigration to check and confirm the requirements and fees for Mimay and my mommy’s visa. UAE attested birth certificate, UAE attested marriage certificate, passport copy and parents salary certificate. So far, my ate and kuya are processing our UAE attested docs in Pinas which will tentatively reach here in Dubai by the end of September or early October. Visa processing pala is just one day according to the immigration officer. We just have to make sure that we have complete documents.

Before heading home, we dropped by in City Centre to get some food and fruits. We will have our late lunch sa house na because we can’t eat anywhere or even in malls because of Ramadan. Restos are open just for take-out. Poor us, we we’re hungry to death! We just thought, this sacrifice is all worth it because everything is for our Mimay. Hubby and I just diverted our hunger to day dreaming. We were imagining we’re running after Mimay inside the mall, getting foods and toys for her, playing with her and buying things for her. We are also thinking what will Mimay’s reaction after 7 months of seeing us only in the computer monitor? Will she immediately come with us? What will be the airport scene? Oh my we are so excited! Non-stop kwentuhan with Poy until we reached home.

It was a very productive day! We are becoming more and more excited to see Mimay and ofcourse my Mommy. I miss her so much too!

Note: I hate myself for being so forgetful! I failed to take some photos! Sayang Sayang! Mimay could have seen what her Mamee and Dadee look like while queuing at the embassy with empty stomach at almost 50 degrees temperature. Awful really!